So, what can I learn from you? How to sacrifice for others the way you sacrifice for your family. How to belong to a group, which always means facing the hard times when inevitably things go wrong but one must pull through. And how to forgive others and oneself the mistakes we all make so we can live together, so one needs not to be on the run forever. In one word: how to *belong* without feeling locked in. How to live a meaningful life, surrounded by people we love without being frustrated that these are the very people who both lock us in and give us wings to fly.